FOOLPROOF Week 6

Wisdom from Proverbs to keep you from actin'a fool.

Pastor James

WISDOM & FRIENDSHIP

“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed.  If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.  Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.”

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (NLT2)


WHAT ARE GOOD FRIENDS LIKE?


1.  Good friends make you better.


“You are who you hang out with!”


“Show me your friends and I'll show you your future”


“You become like the 5 people you spend the most time with.  So choose wisely.”


“You cannot change the people around you, but you can change the people you choose to be around.”


“If you hang your hat with the whiners, complainers and the aint-it-awfulizers, you will become just like them. If you hang around those people who are the depressing, angering, blamers, you will become just like them. You really are only as good as the company you keep.”




“As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.” Proverbs 27:17 (NLT2)


“Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and get in trouble.”

Proverbs 13:20 (NLT2)


“Don’t be fooled by those who say such things, for “bad company corrupts good character.”

1 Corinthians 15:33 (NLT2)


“Don’t befriend angry people or associate with hot-tempered people, or you will learn to be like them and endanger your soul.”

Proverbs 22:24-25 (NLT2)


“Stay away from fools, for you won’t find knowledge on their lips.”

Proverbs 14:7 (NLT2)


“The fool says in his heart, "There is no God." And, as a result, “They are corrupt, their deeds are vile; there is no one who does good.”

Psalm 14:1 (NIV)


“There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.”   

Proverbs 14:12 (NIV)


“The godly give good advice to their friends; the wicked lead them astray.”

Proverbs 12:26 (NLT2)



WHAT ARE GOOD FRIENDS LIKE?


2.  Good friends are dependable.


“A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.”

Proverbs 17:17 (NLT2)


“After David had finished talking with Saul, he met Jonathan, the king’s son. There was an immediate bond of love between them, and they became the best of friends. From that day on Saul kept David with him and wouldn’t let him return home. And Jonathan made a solemn pact with David, because he loved him as he loved himself.”

1 Samuel 18:1-3 (NLT2)


“Tell me what I can do to help you...”

1 Samuel 20:4 (NLT2)



“Loyalty makes a person attractive. It is better to be poor than dishonest.”  

Proverbs 19:22 (NLT2)



“A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”

Proverbs 18:24 (NIV)




WHAT ARE GOOD FRIENDS LIKE?


3.  Good friends are trustworthy.


“A troublemaker plants seeds of strife; gossip separates the best of friends.”  

Proverbs 16:28 (NLT2)


"…gossiping from house to house, meddling in other people’s business and talking about things they shouldn’t.”

1 Timothy 5:13 (NLT2)



WHAT ARE GOOD FRIENDS LIKE?


4.  Good friends care enough to confront.


“An honest answer is the sign of true friendship.”

Proverbs 24:26


“An open rebuke is better than hidden love!  Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.”

Proverbs 27:5-6 (NLT2)


 “A friend means well, even when he hurts you. But when an enemy puts his hand round your shoulder - watch out!”

Proverbs 27:6 (GNT)


“The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and incense.   Never abandon a friend— either yours or your father’s.”

Proverbs 27:9 (NLT2)



“This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you. There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command.  I no longer call you slaves, because a master doesn’t confide in his slaves. Now you are my friends, since I have told you everything the Father told me.”

John 15:12-15 (NLT2)





GROUP DISCUSSION

FOOLPROOF 

Week 6

WISDOM and FRIENDSHIP

 

 

ICEBREAKER QUESTION: Who would you say was your best friend growing up? What

   character qualities did you like or remember most about them?

 


1) On Sunday, we read the following quotes:  


“If you hang your hat with the whiners, complainers and the aint-it-awfulizers, you will become just like them. If you hang around those people who are the depressing, angering, blamers, you will become just like them. You really are only as good as the company you keep.”  


And, Solomon said.


“Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and get in trouble.” Proverbs 13:20 


How have you found these wise statements to be true in your life or the lives of others – for good or for evil? Give specific examples if you can. 





2) Read 1 Samuel 18:1-4, 19:1-7, and chapter 20. What are some observations, interpretations, and applications about friendship can you glean from the story of David and Jonathan? In what ways does their friendship serve to illustrate the principles of the Proverbs regarding good friends making us better, being loyal/dependable, being trustworthy, caring enough to speak the truth in love, and not hanging around with hotheads? 











3) Jesus can be described as the “friend of sinners” (Luke 7:31-34), a friend that “sticks closer than a brother” (Proverbs 18:24), and a friend who would “lay down his life” for his friends (. 

John 15:13). What do each of these phrases mean and how do they encourage you personally and remind you of what it is to be a friend to others?