Wisdom from Proverbs to keep you from actin'a fool.
“Their purpose is to teach people wisdom and discipline, to help them understand the insights of the wise. Their purpose is to teach people to live disciplined and successful lives, to help them do what is right, just, and fair. These proverbs will give insight to the simple, knowledge and discernment to the young. Let the wise listen to these proverbs and become even wiser. Let those with understanding receive guidance by exploring the meaning in these proverbs and parables, the words of the wise and their riddles. [and the key verse – verse 7] Fear of the LORD is the foundation of true knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline.”
Proverbs 1:1-7 (NLT2)
“You must not covet your neighbor’s house. You must not covet your neighbor’s wife, male or female servant, ox or donkey, or anything else that belongs to your neighbor.”
Exodus 20:17 (NLT2)
“You must not commit adultery.” Exodus 20:14 (NLT2)
“...LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” So the LORD God formed from the ground all the wild animals and all the birds of the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would call them, and the man chose a name for each one. He gave names to all the livestock, all the birds of the sky, and all the wild animals. But still there was no helper just right for him. So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the LORD God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man. “At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man.’” This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame.”
Genesis 2:18-25 (NLT2)
“You have heard the commandment that says, ‘You must not commit adultery.’[agreed] But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman [or a man] with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
Matthew 5:27-29 (NLT2)
“Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.”
Hebrews 13:4 (NLT2)
“So if your eye—even your good eye—causes you to lust, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your hand—even your stronger hand—causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.”
Matthew 5:29-30 (NLT2)
“God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin. Then each of you will control his own body and live in holiness and honor— not in lustful passion like the pagans who do not know God and his ways. Never harm or cheat a Christian brother in this matter by violating his wife, for the Lord avenges all such sins, as we have solemnly warned you before. God has called us to live holy lives, not impure lives. Therefore, anyone who refuses to live by these rules is not disobeying human teaching but is rejecting God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.”
1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 (NLT2)
“Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.” But the person who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with him. Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.”
1 Corinthians 6:15-20 (NLT2)
“Wisdom will save you from the immoral woman, from the seductive words of the promiscuous woman. She has abandoned her husband and ignores the covenant she made before God. Entering her house leads to death; it is the road to the grave. The man who visits her is doomed. He will never reach the paths of life.”
Proverbs 2:16-19 (NLT2)
“My [daughter], pay attention to my wisdom; listen carefully to my wise counsel. Then you will show discernment, and your lips will express what you’ve learned. For the lips of an immoral [man] are as sweet as honey, and [his] mouth is smoother than oil.”
Proverbs 5:1-3 (NLT2)
“But in the end [he] is as bitter as poison, as dangerous as a double-edged sword. [His] feet go down to death; [his] steps lead straight to the grave. For [he] cares nothing about the path to life. [He] staggers down a crooked trail and doesn’t realize it.
Proverbs 5:4-6 (NLT2)
“So now, my sons, listen to me. Never stray from what I am about to say: Stay away from [him]! Don’t go near the door of [his] house! If you do, you will lose your honor and will lose to merciless people all you have achieved. Strangers will consume your wealth, and someone else will enjoy the fruit of your labor. In the end you will groan in anguish when disease consumes your body. You will say, “How I hated discipline! If only I had not ignored all the warnings! Oh, why didn’t I listen to my teachers? Why didn’t I pay attention to my instructors? I have come to the brink of utter ruin, and now I must face public disgrace.”
Proverbs 5:7-14 (NLT2)
“While I was at the window of my house, looking through the curtain, I saw some naive young men, and one in particular who lacked common sense. He was crossing the street near the house of an immoral woman, strolling down the path by her house. It was at twilight, in the evening, as deep darkness fell.”
Proverbs 7:6-9 (NLT2)
“The woman approached him, seductively dressed and sly of heart. She was the brash, rebellious type, never content to stay at home. She is often in the streets and markets, soliciting at every corner. She threw her arms around him and kissed him, and with a brazen look she said, “I’ve just made my peace offerings and fulfilled my vows. You’re the one I was looking for! I came out to find you, and here you are!
Proverbs 7:10-15 (NLT2)
“My bed is spread with beautiful blankets, with colored sheets of Egyptian linen. I’ve perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. Come, let’s drink our fill of love until morning. Let’s enjoy each other’s caresses, for my husband is not home. He’s away on a long trip. He has taken a wallet full of money with him and won’t return until later this month.” So she seduced him with her pretty speech and enticed him with her flattery.”
Proverbs 7:16-21 (NLT2)
“He followed her at once, like an ox going to the slaughter. He was like a stag caught in a trap, awaiting the arrow that would pierce its heart. He was like a bird flying into a snare, little knowing it would cost him his life.”
Proverbs 7:22-23 (NLT2)
“An adulterous woman consumes a man, then wipes her mouth and says, “What’s wrong with that?”
Proverbs 30:20 (NLT2)
“So listen to me, my sons, and pay attention to my words. Don’t let your hearts stray away toward her. Don’t wander down her wayward path. For she has been the ruin of many; many men have been her victims. Her house is the road to the grave. Her bedroom is the den of death.”
Proverbs 7:24-27 (NLT2)
“..the man who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys himself. He will be wounded and disgraced. His shame will never be erased. For the woman’s jealous husband will be furious, and he will show no mercy when he takes revenge. He will accept no compensation, nor be satisfied with a payoff of any size.”
Proverbs 6:32-35 (NLT2)
“…sleeping with another man’s wife will cost you your life. Can a man scoop a flame into his lap and not have his clothes catch on fire? Can he walk on hot coals and not blister his feet? So it is with the man who sleeps with another man’s wife. He who embraces her will not go unpunished.”
Proverbs 6: 26b-29 (NLT2)
“Drink water from your own well— share your love only with your [spouse]. Why spill the water of your springs in the streets, having sex with just anyone? You should reserve it for yourselves. Never share it with strangers. Let your [husband] be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the [spouse] of your youth. [He] is a loving [buck], a [complete stud]. Let [his body] satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by [his] love.”
Proverbs 5:15-19 (NLT2)
“Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
1 Corinthians 7:5 (NLT2)
Why be captivated, my [daughter], by an immoral [man], or fondle the [body] of a promiscuous [man]? For the LORD sees clearly what a [woman] does, examining every path [she] takes. An evil [woman] is held captive by [her] own sins; they are ropes that catch and hold [her]. [She] will die for lack of self-control; [she] will be lost because of [her] great foolishness.”
Proverbs 5:20-23 (NLT2)
“My son, obey your father’s commands, and don’t neglect your mother’s instruction. Keep their words always in your heart. Tie them around your neck. When you walk, their counsel will lead you. When you sleep, they will protect you. When you wake up, they will advise you. For their command is a lamp and their instruction a light; their corrective discipline is the way to life.”
Proverbs 6:20-23 (NLT2)
“How can a young person stay pure? By obeying your word. I have tried hard to find you— don’t let me wander from your commands. I have hidden your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you.”
Psalm 119:9-11 (NLT2)
WISDOM and MARRIAGE
ICEBREAKER QUESTION: If you are married, how did you meet your spouse?
If you are not married, what is the one thing about your parents'
marriage or relationship that you would most want to copy?
1) God says... “Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will
surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.”
Hebrews 13:4 (NLT2)
− Why do you think God is so interested in honoring marriage? Do you think we (as a country/as a culture) “give honor” to marriage anymore? Why or why not? If so, how are we experiencing the blessings of that decision? If not, do you think we are experiencing God's judgment as a result? If so, how?
− Given the changes in thinking regarding sex, marriage, and sexual fidelity in marriage, what do you think this (or future) generation's concepts of marriage are or will be?
2) According to the verses we read on Sunday, adultery and sexual immorality, are a major “no-
no” and they are on the rise. Read Proverbs 7 together and make some observations about
the two parties involved in this story of sexual sin. What do you learn about them and the
steps they took as they descended into their sordid affair? What types of things could we do
to avoid making the same kind of mistakes and experiencing the negative consequences of
those sinful actions?
3) Both Solomon and the Apostle Paul emphasize that the best ways to protect and enjoy your
marriage/future marriage are to a) obey the scriptures, and b) rejoice in/enjoy one another
physically, emotionally, relationally, and spiritually. What are some practical and non-
explicit ways that you (or couples you admire) have found to do that?